One of the biggest issues I have to deal with when it comes to my students is the idea that they are too ugly to attract women.
There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as: They could be too old. Some men think they are too fat. They could be too short. Some men think they are too ugly.
Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.
Myth #1 – You have to be good looking to get women.
Look around this world and notice the different types of men, who date beautiful women, you will find this myth is not true. Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness. Is there a difference?
Although you cannot control whether you are good looking or not, however you do have control of how you present yourself. You do control how you groom and the clothes you wear, your hairstyle, how you smell and so on. These are all aspects that factor into looking good. Any man can be attractive when he controls his appearance.
Myth #2 – Women and Men Think Alike
Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.
Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you. Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.
So naturally, you assume women are going to size you up the same exact way.
This is incorrect.
Women have a different set of standards when determining their attraction than men have. This does not mean they have no care as to the attractiveness of a man; they just do not use physical characteristics as a means of judgment as men do.
Women find attraction by how a man makes them feel, more so than how he may physically appear. This explains their attraction to social status and confidence. Men who make them laugh, are good at what they do attract women. Physical looks has very little to do with whether a woman is attracted to a man.
Myth #3 – Women Notice Our Insecurities
Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves – our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline.
No matter what it is, we see it!
Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.
Do you know that most women are not aware of your insecurities and only notice them when you call their attention to them? So forget about your insecurities rather than trying to diffuse or dismiss them by calling the attention of others as to why you may think you are ugly.
Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it. In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.
Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy
Good looking guys have their own struggles with women. Sure, being physically attractive helps them initially, but in the long run, they have the same issues other men have.
Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she’s around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.
If a man matches a woman’s physical type, she’ll gravitate to him because those features make her feel good. But if the guy is boring, or a jerk, or just not compatible, those feelings will go away.
However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.
Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.
You don’t have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.
When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don’t look like Brad Pitt, she’s going to begin to see you in a whole new light – despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.
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